Could it All Be So Simple

Love is defined as a strong positive emotion of regard and affection. Psychology it is broken down into 3 types: Eros - erotic love, Philos love - a love based on friendship between two people, Agape - unconditional love. Biblically it is displayed several times (though there may be many more): "So when they had eaten breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, 'Simon, son of Jonah, do you LOVE (Greek: αγαπάω or agapao) Me more than these?'; and "He said to Him, 'Yes, Lord; You know that I LOVE (Greek: φιλέω or phileō) You'. If you are confused by the definition of love, then you damn well should be. It is probably the only word in the English langauge with more definitions than the word run (do look up run in the dictionary in your free time). Love is a term left up for interputation depending on your spirituality, your beliefs, your up bringing, your environment.

Hopefully you have a basic understanding or the previous paragraph gave you an understanding the term love. Next I ask, is love and marriage hard to comprehend in the black community? Marriage between black males and females are steadily declining, while marriage with black men and other races is increasing!!! Once again I am going to be bias on this subject, and state that this is mostly our faults, yes black men!!! Honestly Brothers, black women come in all shapes, sizes, hair textures (weather its theres or not is a different subject all together lol), etc. We demand so much out of our women that they either stay in an unfulfilling relationship where they are slowly dying inside and they lack the self-esteem to have a good relationship or go to the next relationship a ticking time bomb from what we put them through. Black men don't cherish black women as we should because there are so many of them to choose from, and that is a serious problem. Now I'm not saying that it is wrong to be in love with and marry outside of your race, but I know way too many black men who do so because they would rather not deal with the stereotypical characteristics of black women. Funny thing in my opinion is, those stereotypical characteristics are what make black women so wonderful. Dealing with such strong personalities make us stronger and able to deal with confrontation easier. Men also have a satisfaction issue, which sometimes lead us to do some dumb ass things. One of my favorite self made sayings is, "Why look for a million and one dollars when you already have a million dollars". A large amount of black men search for "something better" without giving any thought to what they already possess as in pursuing someone already involved. Most men think, "well I'm not doing it so I'm not worried about it", and that's a major problem as well. We should not let our friends put their women in such positions. Yes you should not get involved in their relationships, but should let them know when they are wrong and when they are wrong to their women. If you are not ready, don't put that women through your bullshit and fuck her up. We can string a women on for years just for her not to be the one, and that leaves her scared for the next brother. Black unity is an amazing thing, but we are destroying ourselves internally by how we are viewed by other races, and the young men to follow behind us. Black men have always been leaders, be strong enough to lead with us in this particular venture, the search for black love. I could go on so much more, and ladies I haven't forgotten about your part in this, I just wanted to throw something out there.

Respect thy Fathers

After reading countless post stating, "Happy Father's Day to all my single mothers", I literally got thrown off on how disrespectful females can be. Ladies, how many status updates do you see on Mother's Day from single fathers stating, "Happy Mother's Day to all my single dads"? Zero!!!!!! If you have hard feelings for your own father, realize he is the reason you are here. So pray on it and respect him, but in no way am I saying you have to like them. Also no matter how you feel about your child's father, he is the reason you are blessed with your child today. Once again, you don't have to like him, but I recommend you respect him. Children pick up on a lot more than most of us realize. I listen to my daugther every day ask questions that most adults don't have the mental capacity to think about and ask. For some women, he wasn't an asshole when you choose to let him go in, or you just chose not to notice. For some women, it isn't even about the kids, its about what he did to you. He may be the best father in the world, but what he may have done to the woman, dictates what how you let him interact with the child. Some men, and I am not condoning this, cut there losses with the child because they don't wanna deal with the mother. The emotional struggle that some mothers put the fathers through is absolutely unnessacary, but to their defense, the men should be strong enough to deal with whatever for their child, since they had no problem getting in the bed with the mother. If you don't want to acknowledge your BD on this day, try saying nothing, silence is a very strong weapon. All in all, there is absolutely no excuse for a dead beat father, but at least show them some respect and respect for their day, because if not for them, you wouldn't have the blessing or blessings you have today.

When the Planets Align

So for the first time ever, I will be a father. And during the months leading up to this point, I've ran millions of scenerios on how his life will play out, and I haven't even met him yet. When you have a child, genetically, they're clones of the parents, good and bad. So with that said, what "good" qualities do I teach him dealing with character? Of course I teach him the simple things: believe in the word of the Lors, be respectful, importance of education, etc. But what about, how to be good at gambling, or how to get 5+ phone numbers in a night, or the Harrison men's "Gift of Gab", or what about what to do in bed to drive women wild. 
Some of those seem bad or wrong, but were things put in my life that helped shaped me into who I am. But with these things, who deem them wrong? Some of these are great qualities to some. Where I grew up, you had to have card savy or you lost lunch money, he will surely need to know how to approach women, and how to please his partner. Will I teach him how to be passive like me, or will I promote him to be outspoken and not passive at all? 
I am a person who sees 2 sides to everything, and it's funny but with him, see nothing but positive endings. It's funny how I will give ANYTHING I possess to ensure he is happy and successful. Total dedication to someone I can only feel whem they kick lol. I've never understood how men can let petty conflict between the mother and themselves have any effect on how they interact with their child. You don't have to ever think about the mother again, but you will always have the child to think of. We all try to be happy, but it should reach a point when seeing them happy is what you want more than anything. 
My excitment level is through the roof, and I can not wait to encorperate him into my life. I am now starting to see myself as a guide for him to be all he can be and the best he can be at whatever he chooses to do. I will always be an open book to "the Sequel", but I don't know if that's good or bad lol.