Love is defined as a strong positive emotion of regard and affection. Psychology it is broken down into 3 types: Eros - erotic love, Philos love - a love based on friendship between two people, Agape - unconditional love. Biblically it is displayed several times (though there may be many more): "So when they had eaten breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, 'Simon, son of Jonah, do you LOVE (Greek: αγαπάω or agapao) Me more than these?'; and "He said to Him, 'Yes, Lord; You know that I LOVE (Greek: φιλέω or phileō) You'. If you are confused by the definition of love, then you damn well should be. It is probably the only word in the English langauge with more definitions than the word run (do look up run in the dictionary in your free time). Love is a term left up for interputation depending on your spirituality, your beliefs, your up bringing, your environment.
Hopefully you have a basic understanding or the previous paragraph gave you an understanding the term love. Next I ask, is love and marriage hard to comprehend in the black community? Marriage between black males and females are steadily declining, while marriage with black men and other races is increasing!!! Once again I am going to be bias on this subject, and state that this is mostly our faults, yes black men!!! Honestly Brothers, black women come in all shapes, sizes, hair textures (weather its theres or not is a different subject all together lol), etc. We demand so much out of our women that they either stay in an unfulfilling relationship where they are slowly dying inside and they lack the self-esteem to have a good relationship or go to the next relationship a ticking time bomb from what we put them through. Black men don't cherish black women as we should because there are so many of them to choose from, and that is a serious problem. Now I'm not saying that it is wrong to be in love with and marry outside of your race, but I know way too many black men who do so because they would rather not deal with the stereotypical characteristics of black women. Funny thing in my opinion is, those stereotypical characteristics are what make black women so wonderful. Dealing with such strong personalities make us stronger and able to deal with confrontation easier. Men also have a satisfaction issue, which sometimes lead us to do some dumb ass things. One of my favorite self made sayings is, "Why look for a million and one dollars when you already have a million dollars". A large amount of black men search for "something better" without giving any thought to what they already possess as in pursuing someone already involved. Most men think, "well I'm not doing it so I'm not worried about it", and that's a major problem as well. We should not let our friends put their women in such positions. Yes you should not get involved in their relationships, but should let them know when they are wrong and when they are wrong to their women. If you are not ready, don't put that women through your bullshit and fuck her up. We can string a women on for years just for her not to be the one, and that leaves her scared for the next brother. Black unity is an amazing thing, but we are destroying ourselves internally by how we are viewed by other races, and the young men to follow behind us. Black men have always been leaders, be strong enough to lead with us in this particular venture, the search for black love. I could go on so much more, and ladies I haven't forgotten about your part in this, I just wanted to throw something out there.
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