Marriage, a union of which is done so under God, i.e. holy matrimony. So why is it so common to find someone who has cheated on there spouse? I lot of people don't see it as so, but during the wedding presentation, a set of phrases are asked to ensure the purity of this union. For whatever reason tho, people stand there and go through all the motions and still state I do when prompted to... Does anyone see this as lying to God? As looking the person so called love in the eyes, as well as the minister, along with the audience and under the eyes of God and vow to love and cherish the person standing across from you. What if good looks you in your eyes when your at the Gates and says "Well you deceived me when you promised to honor your marriage and I didn't appreciate that, so I hope you have sun screen". Now I know he is a forgiving God, but you deceived him, why couldn't he do the same? I am a strong believer in karma, and what if cheating on your spouse held you up in other areas? As in, your job makes you miserable, your kids are bad, financial instability, etc.
So I have a story for you just to display how much people neglect the sacristy of marriage: I went bar hopping this past weekend and witnessed a friend of mine try to spark a lustful relationship with several women, most were unattractive mind you, all while wearing his wedding ring..... LMAO, yes dead serious. Funny thing is, I don't think most women knew to look for his ring, nor did he prolly care to share that he was married. He even mentioned to me at the end of the nite how happy he was with the married life, and how I should look into it. Now since I am quite good looking myself, of course several women approached me on the nite, and I noticed none asked if I was involved in any type of relationship. Do we care not to ask because you are that interested in the other person, or what? It takes a lot of selflessness to be married, and a lot of people are not strong enough to put there own feelings aside for that of someone elses. What will it take to get us there?
This is an passage actually stated during wedding ceremonies: "Marriage is a solemn institution to be held in honor by all, it is the cornerstone of the family and of the community. It requires of those who undertake it a complete and unreserved giving of one's self. It is not to be entered into lightly, as marriage is a sincere and mutual commitment to love one another. This commitment symbolizes the intimate sharing of two lives and still enhances the individuality of each of you."
Not to be taken lightly.
So, in my opinion ( and I won't say that phrase again consideing I am the one writing this) so many people are having problems in marriage is because they are not treating it like a marriage. They are treating it like a boyfriend:girlfriend relationship. As if they were in highschool or even college. Something Ive learned from observation is that many people get marrried in the "In love" stage of their relationship, meaning they get married when on cloud nine and they find no fault with each other. As an old saying goes, it takes 2 of each season to get to know someone. Meaning you don't get to know someone until aleast you been around them for two years. Another factor is that no one wants to be alone. Loneliness sucks! point blank. So, rather than being alone for awhile and wait to find the "right" one, people instead settle and endure whatever they may have to in order to stay in a relationship. As stated before in the blog that I am responding to, you have to be real self -LESS in order to get married. Yet, you see people who get married and they know they're not ready to stop their selfish ways or even work on correcting them. They fear the loss of that person and do the next best thing (well at least it is in their eyes) which is to put a ring on it and hope for the best for the future. Question:Why buy the cow if your getting the milk for free. Well I'll tell you why you buy the cow. You buy it so if all the other cows run dry or merely don't wanna let you milk it for free anymore you'll always have that one you got at home that you purchased. And to me that can be a sign of selfishness for the fact that you bought something that you really didn't want. You were just petty and didn't want anyone else to have it. Hmmmm sounds like grade school antics to me. Well to get back on topic cuz it seems Ive drifted away a little, my last comments about marriage ( and this is the view point of someone looking from the outside in) there are some right ways to do it and some wrong ways. And I will say with out a shadow of a doubt that cheating is a WRONG way of doing it. And for those of you who think you're slick and don't get caught, well someone is always watching you and the truth is light! As we all know that light beats darkness 100% of the time so you will get caught. You may get caught directly or indirectly. And as the author of the blog stated karma is real, so when you find you daugther/son being cheated on remember what did to her momma or her daddy. And when your son/daughter becomes a ho, and yes men can be ho's too, remember he learned from watching you. Oh but, I forgot you too slick so he/she just picked the ideal of infidelity up from no where. Right!... believee that if you want
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